-> What do you think of my bridesmaids walking down the aisle with candles instead of bouquets?
What do you think of my bridesmaids walking down the aisle with candles instead of bouquets?
I'm having a winter wedding, in the evening. I'm really trying to pull off a lovely wedding on a budget. Flowers are expensive, and so I was thinking we could dim the lighting in the church sitting area (the front would be lit up for the guests to see us well) and have them walk with candles (big ones, so they won't drip on their dresses) and then they can set them down in the front of the church when they get up there as added decoration. What do you think? Good or no? Also, my fiance's family is pretty judgemental, and they are all in the wedding, so I'm not sure if they will go for the idea or not. Also, maybe we could decorate the candles with fake flowers with a hot glue gun or something (ideas for that would be great too.) Thanks!
It's a Catholic church and they burn candles for every service. I don't see why we wouldn't be able to because of that. And we could use the sheilds.
- A good way to get a few bra's set afire,I'd think about it a little more.
- Sounds like a good idea. Just make sure it won't be a fire hazard and all the bridesmaids feel comfortable holding a flame while walking down the aisle. Congrats and have a wonderful wedding!
- cuteee... but make the flowers reeeealllly pretty.. and maybe the holders can be flowered? and... btw.. they wouldnt be flower girls.. theyd be candle girls
- They would prob blow out as they walk
- Too dangerous! All that hairspray and silky garments. I don't think it's a great idea.
- That sounds really beautiful but find out first if any of the guests are alergic to the candles smoke some people are.
- Love the candle idea, just be careful!
- sounds nice, but how can a big candle not produce wax? and what happens if one goes out? that's a little too ify for me. maybe do a small poinsettias bunch or one holly branch with simple red berries.
- Girl, you're asking for trouble with those candles. Dont you know candles can start a fire. All it takes is for the candle tip to ctach onto your bridesmaids hair and presto. Or, she might drop it and it'd catch fire to the floor. Some people are naturally clumsy and they can trip, fall, drop the cnadle, and there you go. Candles are soo not worth the drama that can happen. Forget the candles. Please. Get some beatutful flowers and be done with it.
- creative, but there's risk involved..and risk isn't good with something as big as this...
i would just stick to traditional flower,....i m sure you can find some on sale or something.
- I think that is a lovely idea, but you definitely need to check with the church because of the fire laws many churches do not allow candles inside any more. Most churches now have the fake candles that flicker.
Another idea, if you want elegant and money saving is to have them each carry 1 long stemmed rose, either real or silk with a decorative bow. I have seen that done and it looks very elegant.
- Candles are a great idea even with the fake flowers around them. But also just carrying fake flowers down the isle is a cheap version of the real ones that are major expensive. You can make whatever you want because it's the day for the two of you anyway, not anyone else. Good luck.
- It's your wedding so you can whatever you want..I think it's a brilliant idea and will be very pretty. You can get glass covers to prevent them from going out and dripping quite cheap..
- It will be beautiful. Perfect for a winter wedding. Traditional weddings have lost their appeal. Making just one or two changes will set your wedding apart from all the others your guests will attend. Remember that it's your wedding; never mind what your fiance's family thinks...allow them to make some other minor decision if you think it will help them feel their opinions are valued.
- What a beautiful idea! Candles sound wonderful. TELL his family what you want. Have a good and positive attitude about it. I'm sure it will go off without a hitch. Blessings!
- I think it would be a little on the dangerous side, especially if the dresses are frillly at all. But, if you decide to try to do this, check with the church first and make sure that they're ok with it. Because of their insurance, they may have regulations about how candles are dealth with. I know that even at candle-light services I've been at, most candles have to be drip-free wax and they must have shields underneath to prevent dripping wax on people or the floor and to help prevent fire.
- I think if the candles are big it wouldn't be a bad idea, I like it sound pretty! Oh yeah and congrat. on getting married.
- sound good. something different for a change.
- ur very creative. no one would have eva thought of dat. i think itz a good idea just dont burn anyone's dress
- I think it's a wonderful idea. The flowers would make them look especially lovely. And it's your wedding so you get to choose what you want. Don't worry about others, this is your special day. Lots of luck and congrats.
- Reminds me of a wake. But, it may be pretty...who knows. However, as far as the danger part, go to Hobby Lobby or Michaels and find those "flameless" candles. They operate by a small battery w/ on/off switch. Their the size of the smallest votive. Very inexpensive. Maybe you can put it in a clear glass votive holder and arrange your bouquet around that.
Oh hey, and they also have the full size battery operated candle that one might put in the window during the holiday season. You've seen them.
- Instead of having them carry candles, have a candle-lit ceremony. Each attendant can carry one rose or one of your favorite flower. The candles are too much of a hazard. Think safety.
- Oh, wow... that sounds soooo cool! Just make sure they walk slow.
As for the fiance's family.... who cares what they think!! It's your wedding!!
I think it sounds really pretty and I wouldn't worry about it... I think it would be beautiful!! I don't know where you're having your wedding, but I would have all the lights off..... talk about WOW!
I'm sure your bridesmaids aren't retarded, so just disregard all the "be carefuls" of everyone else :)
- i think that would be really cool.
You could probably get colored candles to match the dresses.
And if your fiances family doesnt like it and you feel its a good idea just go with it because its YOUR day to shine!
Good Luck and Congrats =]
- I was going to walk down the aisle carrying a candle (and perhaps a single pink rose tied with a ribbon wrapped around) for my winter wedding.
I hate flowers and bouquets. Who wants to lug that around?
My bridesmaids will carry wreaths, and the groomsmen will have berries pinned to their lapels.
I think this could work, but there are a few concerns, which is why I am not 100% sure yet if this is a go.
-Fire hazzard. Your church may not allow this. Wax can spill, hairsprayed loose hair can catch fire, 'maids could trip in their long gowns and heels....
-Your maids won't have anything to hold in your pictures (not sure if this matters to you or not).
Congrats and I am sure you will work something out!
- I LOVE LOVE LOVE that idea! The only thing I would change is that I would make them thin candles, but put those rings on them to catch the wax dripping, and maybe good-looking fake flowers under that.... Big candles will look like they picked them up from a side table somewhere and decided to carry them down the aisle with them. Thin tapers will look romantic.
Oooooooh, I'll bet your wedding will be beautiful.
- hummm, sounds like a fun and creative idea! but I would weigh the pro's and con's of it first...there is probably going to be more con's than pro's because if the flames dont do the damage then the hot wax will! just think if they did drop the candel and caught something on fire, chances are that the if the fire gets put out then there is going to be a burn hole and a lot of messy had to remove wax. Not only that but it could cost you! and i mean cost you big if anything happend (god forbin)!!! and you dont want to have to pay for more then you really wanted to!
I agree that flower are expensive! try going to michaels and getting fake flowers and berry twigs for the girls and some fun ribbion or that green flower tape! michaels has a large selections of seasonal flowers and are pretty cheap too!
- How about a single red rose instead with a beautiful satin ribbon tied on it? A bouquet of red roses cost $20 at a grocery story. Surely you can afford that.
- YES YES YES that is such a wonderful idea i say go for it .......it shouldnt be a big deal they do it in churches all the time and they make things you stick i nthe bottom of the candle to hold them and catch the drippings and you barely notice them
- I doubt your venue will approve it . . . it would be considered a fire hazard . . . but you could try checking with them.
You mentioned using silk flowers with the candles. Why not make small bouquets of silk flowers instead?
- My Bridesmaids all carried one flower down the aisle (Callalillys) however one rose or Gerber daisy will work they could each carry one rose with a few sprigs of babys breath you could probably do it for under 2.00 each! Your future in laws may like this idea better remind them less is always more ad your wedding will be beautiful! Also try the dollar store for round glass vases and floating candles for your tables add some fake rose petals (also at the dollar store or wal-mart for $.99) and your wedding Will be classy on a budget!
- I think it would be very pretty and different. How about candles in a candle holder of some sort with a handle and maybe some flowers around the base of the candle holder. I would not worry about drips on the dresses, I would be very, very worried that the candles would catch someones dress on fire. An enclosed candle would be much safer. I also would not worry about my fiance's family and their being judgmental. This is your day and you do it the way you want.
- I think that will be a wonderful idea. Decorating the candles will be nice too, but you won't be able to do it with a hot glue gun. It will melt the candle. Try using double-sided tape like vellum tape that is thin and nearly invisible.
As for the fiance's family. Unless you and he want to cater to their every wish, it's not their wedding. It's yours and his. If this is what you (and he) want, do it. It will be beautiful!
- I think it would look lovely. I would use LED candles instead of real ones though. Burnt fingers, dripping wax, candles blowing out, hair caught on fire...I've seen all of the above and I would hate for that to be an issue with you.
Another idea for "decorating the church" is to hand out cheapo tapers (dollar tree) to all the guests. At the beginning of the ceremony dim all the lights and light the candles of your parents. Have them pass the light along until everybody has their's lit as a symbolic gesture of how they have each touched your lives. The good part about it is the church is candlelit so it's hard to tell you didn't decorate it up.
- Very nice for a winter wedding.
- I think the only way to make this idea even halfway 'safe' would be if the candles were in side a hurricane glass. Which could work, but instead of them actually carrying the candles like a bouquet, they could actually carry lanterns. I'm thinking something like an old fashioned 'carolers' lantern. You could use pine and holly, either fresh or silk to decorate them (both stand up well to hot glue). Then you could use either real candles or the battery operated ones (if you wanted they do have colored tea lights that give off some extremely nice light).
You can even carry it through to the reception:
Centerpiece with a silk candle ring at the bottom:
Another idea instead of actual flowers - how about making bouquets out of fresh greens? If you know of a place where you could cut some fresh pine and holly (family members house, businesses, etc.), collect some pine cones (or else very cheap to buy bags of them at a craft store) and use some glitter glue on random 'leaves' for some sparkle. A craft store too will have battery operated strings of lights that can be woven in to the design for a nice glow. This would be unusual and unique and I think his judgemental family would even approve.
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- The church probably won't allow you to walk with open flames. Plus the flames won't stay lit while walking. Also, big candles are heavy and sometimes slippery due to oil in the wax. Not a good idea. The maids don't have to carry huge bouquets of roses. Try pricing small bouquets of alstroemerias, they're usually really inexpensive and come in a ton of colors. A good florist will work with you.
- Yeah..check the fire hazard element, but it could be really pretty..
We had a woman from church get like dollar store flowers and do beautiful arrangements for pretty much cost of the flowers. Maybe you can find someone to do that for you?
- It's just asking for trouble.
If you can't afford bouquets, have each one just hold a single flower - a long stemmed rose or gerbera daisy (about $2 each).
- you do the taper candles, ask the pastor there they should have the little things that go around the bottom of the candles, that hold the melted wax, youo can get the flowers attached to the candles at this place by order. You could also do a handtied bouquet for about 6.00 and up if you change your mind. But the candles will look lovely with a evening wedding.
- I actually love this idea. Its different and beautiful. Perfect for an evening candlelight wedding. I think decorating the candles will look tacky. Just do the candle idea and be confident in it. If you still want the idea of flowers the bridesmaids could each wear a flower in their hair.
- I think this is such a great idea! It reminds me of midnight mass on Christms Eve when I was a child. The church I went to was huge and we'd all be outside of the church, around the block even, with candles (with the shields). I remember it looking very pretty. I think it would be something different but beautiful. My first response is to keep the candles white and plain. This way, it keeps with the tradition of the church and doesn't look like you are trying to do it as a cheap alternative. Talk to the church first to see if they will allow it and whats involved. Break the news to the girls later and stick to your guns. It will be beautiful!!