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How do I handle divorced parents on a wedding program?

My fiancé's parents are both divorced and remarried. Idk how to put both of the stepparents in the wedding program his mom and stepdad: Erin & Kevin Hoffmaster his dad and stepdad: Charlie & Bev Waugh The thing is though when he was around 2 when his mom remarried, she legally changed his last name to Hoffmaster so, idk...ik his dad should be concluded, it's just complicated. Any ideas of what to do?


  1. List the parents separately like this Mrs Erin Hoffmaster and Mr Charles waugh invite you to...etc etc
  2. Having sitting away from each other, speak to your bf about it or something he just give you ideas and ye should choose this together :) Please answer mine
  3. Bride's Family: Mr. and Mrs. Bride's parents Groom's Family: Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Dad and Stepmom Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Mom and Stepdad
  4. Just deal with it.
  5. insted of listing the parents names because that can get lengthy and take up alot of room on your invitations, dont put the parents on there at all. you can say "mr grooms name and miss brides name are requesting your presence at their wedding on... or something along thoes lines. that way no one gets their feelings hurt either =)
  6. like this: Grooms family: Erin (Kevin) Hoffmaster and Charlie (Bev) Waugh. that's the proper way of doing it. one place you commonly see that done is obituaries if you want to verify that is the proper way of doing it. spouses are listed in parenthesis after the family member's name. the only thing i'm confused about is, is his dad still his legal dad? a mom can't change her son's last name unless the dad gives up his parental rights so i think you need to ask your fiancé about the nature of their relationship and if he wants his biological father included.
  7. Something like this: Parents of the bride: John and Sue Smith Mother and stepfather of the groom: Erin & Kevin Hoffmaster Father and stepmother of the groom: Charlie & Bev Waugh
  8. Miss Manners tells us that if your wedding is so complex that guests need printed handouts to understand what is going on, then your wedding is too complex. Programs, along with save-the-dates and RSVP cards, are creations of The Wedding Industry. They enrich printers, consume the bridal budget, and range from useless to rude. It is a solemn, familiar, and beloved ritual that will take place, not a theatrical pageant. These are your guests, not your audience. Forget programs and worry about how to list these people in your invitations! Modern weddings are paid for by those who volunteer to pay, and the arrangements families make are unique to each wedding. These arrangements are personal information and invitations ought not to so much as hint at who paid for what and how much. Avoid naming any hosts by using the passive voice: The pleasure of the company of [invite each guest by name; guests do not bring guests of their own] is requested at a small dance to celebrate the marriage of ... or The honor of the presence of [invite each guest by name; guests do not bring guests of their own] is desired at the marriage of ... then comes the "Who is getting married?" part Bonnie Bride, daughter of etc etc etc, to Goodly Groom, son of etc etc etc ... The idea is to clarify who Bonnie and Goodly are, not to give glory to financial sponsors. Some basic guidelines for listing parents follows: 1. List both bio-parents EXCEPTING "the invisible man" (or woman) that disappeared from the scene very early on and who, along with his (or her) family has been totally absent from the bride's or groom's life. In such a case list one bio-parent, or bio-parent and step-parent(s). 2. List any step-parent who has come into the bride's or groom's life early enough to be like a bonus parent or whose parents have been grandparents to bride or groom. 3. Ladies first. 4. Couples together get "and" joining the names, which may be together on one line or on two separate lines. 5. Couples no longer together get no "and" to join the names and are always on two separate lines. ... son of Erin Waugh Hoffmaster and Keven Hoffmaster Bev Middlename Waugh and Charlie Waugh Bev's Middle name might be the last name of a former husband or might be her birth name aka maiden name. The tale of your groom's name change is a private family affair. If it's anybody's business, that anybody already knows the story. If people ask, it's up to you whether to frankly share the information or to brush off the question with a vague "Oh, the divorce was a bit complicated and awfully boring. Isn't this champagne wonderful?" I hope this was helpful. Congrats and best wishes.